bigabreads Chapter 614 You Did It On Purpose
Chapter 614 You Did It On Purpose
Chapter 614 You Did It On Purpose
Although Zheng Bin tried his best to deny what Zhou Zheng said just now in his heart, subconsciously he had to admit that the views that Zhou Zheng said just now were correct.
Although Zheng Bin has no relationship experience at all since he was so old, he thinks it is very rewarding to analyze Zhou Zheng's words carefully. Fortunately, he has not had a girlfriend yet, otherwise he will definitely make such a mistake. If such a situation occurs If so, wouldn't that destroy your love with your own hands?Just relying on my ability to bear, if the person I love throws me away, I may feel so painful that I want to commit suicide.
Zhou Zheng thought about Zheng Bin's suggestion just now, and felt that it would be a bit reluctant to start out as a love writer, because although this industry must be very profitable, he didn't have the patience. Writing at the desk, everything outside has nothing to do with me. I can neither go out to eat, drink and have fun, nor can I have a girlfriend. What is the difference between this kind of life and being in prison? What's the point?Isn't that the same as keeping it?
Zhou Zheng struggled for a while, and quickly rejected this idea in his heart, because no amount of money can buy happiness. He still likes to enjoy happiness with his brothers. As for the amount of money, that is secondary. question.
After denying this idea, Zhou Zheng raised his head and looked at Zheng Bin. Seeing that Zheng Bin was silent with anxiety on his face, he was a little curious, wondering why Zheng Bin suddenly stopped talking?Did what I said just now work for him?Where did he realize his mistake?
"Brother Bin, what are you doing? Why do you have such a sad look on your face? You can tell what's on your mind. With me, Zhi Duoxing, I can handle anything for you." Zhou Zheng said, patting his chest.
Zheng Bin was woken up from his thoughts, with a look of bewilderment: "Huh? Oh, I didn't think about anything, I just listened carefully to what you said just now, and suddenly felt terrible.
If what you just said is correct, then if a person has stress and negative emotions, not only can he not talk to his family members, but he has to keep his mouth shut to his family members, and the next best thing is to talk to his lover. , it will even cause big troubles, and it is possible that the two people will break up because of this behavior of confiding in the end. Don't you think this is driving people to death?
If a person is under pressure and can't think about it, can't he find someone to talk to?If those negative emotions and pressure are kept in the heart, no matter how strong or healthy the person is, they will definitely have psychological problems after a long time. "
Zhou Zheng nodded and agreed with Zheng Bin's statement: "Brother Bin, you are so right, and this is one of the points I want to express.
The reason why more and more people living in the city have psychological problems, abnormalities and mental illnesses appear at every turn is entirely the result of long-term backlog of stress and psychological negative emotions, and the urban life makes the relationship between people difficult. The distance has become alienated. People who used to live in the countryside are friends with each other, and they are all very good friends. Zhang's parents and Li's family are short, and they have never been able to avoid people. If something happens to the family, everyone will follow suit.
In that kind of humane society, if a family has difficulties and problems, they can find relatives and friends around them to talk and find solutions. Therefore, under such circumstances, people's pressure and negative emotions can be relieved and relieved in a timely manner. Comfort, so people are not prone to psychological problems.
But the current urban life has cut off all the previous human relations. If you live in a building, you may not know the person opposite you. There has been an old saying for a long time, that is, a distant relative is not as good as a close neighbor. Being able to know the importance of neighbors, when you really encounter very difficult troubles, sometimes good neighbors can really play a vital role, but now?Counting from the time you moved into the building, you probably haven't spoken two words to your neighbors in total.
Under such an indifferent relationship, can you expect your neighbors to help you?You don’t feel at ease when you go out to let him see your child, let alone tell him the pressure and negative emotions in your heart, so people living in the city gradually surround themselves in a bunch of walls , Wrap yourself up and isolate yourself from the outside world.
They think that by wrapping themselves in thick walls, they can be strong and not get hurt. In fact, their thinking is quite wrong.
Because these people wrap themselves in a thick wall, although the harm from the outside world can be avoided, it is difficult for him to get in touch with the outside world. There is no way for him to confide the pressure and negative emotions in his heart. As the backlog continues, the external injuries did not destroy me, but the problems that emerged from the heart destroyed me. "
Zheng Bin grew up in the city. Although his house is not an ordinary apartment building but a detached villa, he still has a deep understanding of what Zhou Zheng said, because some of his relatives and friends live in the city. In an ordinary building, sometimes when he is a guest, he will find that his relatives, friends and neighbors don't know each other at all, they are complete strangers, and they don't even say a word when they meet.
Neighbors are so indifferent to each other, one can imagine how embarrassing and depressing it is when they meet each other. If you encounter any difficulties and problems in life, don't expect others to lend a hand to help you.
Zheng Bin wiped the sweat from his forehead, took a long breath, and said with a depressed mood: "According to you, people living in the city are destined to have problems in their hearts, because they have not resolved it at all. The only way is to carry all the pressure and negative emotions in your heart. It is said that ordinary people's ability to resist stress is really not strong. If things go on like this, most people will probably have psychological problems.
If there is no normal channel to confide, I think urbanites in the future will have many pathological behaviors. "
Zhou Zheng nodded, deeply convinced: "That's right, this should not be just a problem here, this problem of alienation should be a problem of the whole world, because the whole world is now undergoing urbanization, a large number of young people and Talented people leave the countryside and enter the cities. Such a large-scale migration of people will definitely cause a lot of problems.
The problem we are discussing belongs to one of them. In fact, this problem is not a dead problem. There is a solution, but the solution to this problem is a bit expensive, and not everyone can use it. "
Zheng Bin's eyes lit up, he stared at Zhou Zhengqiong, who was chasing after him fiercely, and asked, "Is there really a solution? Can you tell me what this solution is, and am I qualified to use it? Or, in other words, how powerful is this method?" Jingui?"
Zhou Zheng smiled slightly, pretending to be deep and said: "Actually, the solution to this problem can be said to be expensive or ordinary. It depends entirely on personal fate. If there is fate, it is really not difficult to have this solution."
"Don't be so secretive anymore, let's talk about the real problem." Zheng Bin was eager to know the answer to the question, so he couldn't wait to ask.
Zhou Zheng chuckled, and then suddenly said with a serious face: "This solution is actually very simple. As long as you have a very good friend, then this problem will be solved."
"Ah?" Zheng Bin was shocked, completely disbelieving what Zhou Zheng said.
Zhou Zheng expected Zheng Bin to have such a reaction, so he didn't find it strange at all, but said calmly: "Brother Bin, you don't need to show such an incredible expression, I know, you must think that I am Talking nonsense, how can such a big problem be solved as long as you have a good friend? Isn't this purely nonsense?
It's normal for you to have such emotions and thoughts, because after hearing what I said, ordinary Star Dou citizens must have the same thoughts as you. "
Just as Zheng Bin wanted to say some rebuttals, he suddenly became speechless after hearing Zhou Zheng's explanation. He muttered indignantly in his heart, Zhou Zheng, a brat, didn't forget to piss me off while explaining, he said I have the same thought as the citizens of Star Dou, isn't it just saying in disguise that I am at the same level as them?This kid is really damaged.
Zhou Zheng continued to talk eloquently: "Although I feel very sorry that you have such thoughts, you are not only my good friend, but more importantly, you are also my good brother, so I will not pursue these issues with you. , I still generously tell you what I think in my heart, so that you can understand this good way to solve psychological problems.
In fact, as long as you think about it carefully, it shouldn’t be difficult to figure out this truth. Didn’t I just say that?I tell you that the negative emotions and pressure in my heart are beneficial to you but not harmful. In fact, this statement is also the same in reverse. When I tell you about those bad thoughts and pressure, it is also a kind of release for myself. , It is also beneficial to me and has no harm. Doing so is a mutually beneficial behavior, and it can be said that it has everything but no harm.
Listen to me, Brother Bin, you may understand. The method I am talking about is to find your best friend to talk to when you have negative emotions and pressure. This will not have any side effects , and the effect is immediate.
First, your best friend must know you best. If you can’t tell your loved ones and family members, you can tell him openly, and after saying these words, you won’t worry that this friend will look down on you. Because the two of you can become good friends, it means that the two of you have similar personalities and ages. If your personalities are about the same age, you may encounter the same problems, so your friends can understand you, let alone show weakness because of you He looks down on you because he will show the same weak side in the future, and everyone is mutual, so there is no one who looks down on the other.
Second, since you are your best friend, you must have experienced many things together, and the affection is very strong. With such a strong friendship, you don’t have to worry about your friends revealing your secrets and weaknesses, because leaking Your weakness is equal to losing your friend. The word friend is easy to say, but if you have no friends and want to seriously look for a friend, you will know how difficult it is to make a real friend?
After the lover breaks up, you can look for it. If your conditions are good and your appearance is good, it is not very difficult to find an ideal lover. Good friends together are really difficult things, so people who have such friends cherish their friends very much, and don't want to lose this good friend no matter how much they pay.
This is tantamount to adding a double insurance to your confession. Even if you say the worst thing or have a very unbearable idea when you are confiding, your friends will definitely keep this secret for you and will never spread it to the outside world.
From these two aspects, finding a friend to talk about your inner negative emotions and pressure is simply the best solution.
Only these two benefits alone can make people feel free to talk to their good friends about their inner pressure, but there are more benefits than just these two benefits.
For example, after you understand the pressure and unbearableness in my heart, what do you expect your friends to react?No need to ask, of course it is to say something that understands yourself, and then comfort yourself. These are not particularly difficult things, because as long as you are a good friend of yours, everyone will do this.
But there is a better friend, they will not only say those words that understand you, but also comfort you with heart, after you have finished talking about your stress and negative emotions, he will even take the initiative to treat you and invite you out for a drink .
I think the kind of friend who invites you out for a drink is a good friend in the true sense, because no matter how difficult or uncomfortable you are in your heart, as long as you go out and get drunk with your friends, all problems will be solved. It’s not a problem. After you wake up, the sun will still rise as usual. When you see a friend who is as drunk as you are, you will suddenly have a sense of happiness, and you will feel that even if the end of the world comes, you are not A lonely person always has a good friend to stand by you.
After having this great comfort, those negative emotions and stress in your mind will become trivial in no time.
Of course, this relationship is mutual. If one day your friend also encounters a problem and feels unhappy, he can also come to you to talk about it in this way, and you will comfort him in the same way.
Just imagine, if friends talk to each other about their negative emotions and pressure, is it beneficial to each other without any harm?Brother Bin, if after hearing what I said above, you still think what I said was wrong, then I can only think that you did it on purpose. "
(End of this chapter)